See post #151 here for the parts:
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It is regarding PWM/DC fuel pump control, but the concept is
exactly the same. Just choose an SSR with suitable current rating, and triggering requirements that jive with your ECU outputs.
Regarding a wiring diagram, here is the basic arrangement (the diagram on left is configured for the SSR to switch-to-ground (low side driver) while the diagram on right is switch-to-power (high side driver)....You can configure it either way:
*Note that motors are inductive loads and you'll need to diode-suppress the SSR...which basically means when the SSR opens the circuit, the motor will still be turning, and will become a generator - that power must be prevented from back-feeding into the SSR...post #151 that I've linked to above points out suitable fast-response diodes for this purpose.
I'm not quite sure why, but most (but certainly not all) automotive relays and drivers are configured to switch-to-ground. I usually try to do the same - figuring the automotive electrical engineers have some good reason for it.
You can do the same on the input side of the SSR also... You can either:
1. Ground terminal 4 to chassis, wire your ECU aux ouput to terminal 3 and configure your ECU to switch the aux output "high" (connects to power), or
2. Provide ignition-switched power to terminal 3, wire your ECU aux ouput to terminal 4 and configure the aux output "low" (connects to ground)
Either way, the circuit is open until the ECU aux output closes it - the only difference is whether the break in the circuit is on the positive or negative side of the circuit.