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So I don't want to get into it, but I've been pretty up and down lately. Yes it's personal stuff involving myself. I know you've all been there for one reason or another (which btw, is not important in this case) so I'd like to hear about your ideas on what to do.

Some things I've thought of:

- indoor rock climbing
- going to the gym more often (I haven't been in like 3 weeks, need to get back on track with that)
- looking for a new job (endless chore let me tell you)

Basically I've got feelings of ineptitude and worthlessness. I've been trying to do things for myself (example: I'm going out of town this weekend to TO just for the hell of it and a car show) but I'm finding that this isn't enough. I can't have what I want right now so I find myself constantly dwelling on that particular desire and knowing that I'm not gonna get it makes me depressed.

Yeah this is the PL but some of you have helped me out in the past (soy, to name one). I'd appreciate any real serious answers or assistance. I'm not depressed mind you, I am happy about life and such, I just find myself down more than up these days.

Help a brutha out ya'll. :chill:
 

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how about a hooker? that should cheer you up at least temporarily
 

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well..


it sucks to feel this way but we all go through it. Hang with your buddies more go out and just have a good ole party time. take a trip to the casino, strip club, or just out. get back in the crowd and live life..
 

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Hate to be too much of a downer, but you're only treating the symptoms unless you figure out what is truly making you unhappy. Everything else is cosmetic.

That being said, can you take a vacation from work for a couple of weeks? I doubt alcohol or strip clubs will make you feel better about your life (don't quote me on that).
 

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Ruiner said:
Hate to be too much of a downer, but you're only treating the symptoms unless you figure out what is truly making you unhappy. Everything else is cosmetic.

That being said, can you take a vacation from work for a couple of weeks? I doubt alcohol or strip clubs will make you feel better about your life (don't quote me on that).
my point was to go out and be social..
 

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Dude, I climb indoors 3 days a week. just got back from the gym in fact, a nice long 3 hour session. Nothing has ever left me so tired, but still feeling strong and whole, not beat up like any number of other activities. I'm not kidding when i say its put a spark in my life that has been missing for so long i hadn't noticed. Just to get all new age on your ass, its somethign about forcing you to compete, but in a new way, against gravity, and agaist yourself. there is no opponent. there is no score. Just get your ass to the top, and if not, you will one day. I can talk about this for hours but hit me up offline (PM/IM) and I can talk your ear off about it. Everyone i've introduced has been hooked, even my friggin parents.

Going to the real gym more often will always be hard because the gym is dull, its boring, its not social, and its all about pain. Pain is gain, but not if it leaves you unmotivated. Its your call what kind of effort or motivation you're going to put into this, but if you're bored w/ it you have to change up your routine or take classes in addition to lifting. Otherwise its just a waste.

new job: if the market supports it, do it man... i can't find one, but I'm not looking very hard either... even if it means moving; you talked about that before, and you're not getting any younger. you can always move back, but when you're older nad have other obligations, its not even an option.

and then to wrap up, i gotta say, all of the above and below seem to revolve around a general bordom w/ the everyday grind... I think everyone who hits their mid 20's feels it... hum drum routine takes over. There's no quick fix but finding things outside of work that make you happy is your main task right now... and from my experience, rock climbing sounds like a great way to start.
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So I don't want to get into it, but I've been pretty up and down lately. Yes it's personal stuff involving myself. I know you've all been there for one reason or another (which btw, is not important in this case) so I'd like to hear about your ideas on what to do.

Some things I've thought of:

- indoor rock climbing
- going to the gym more often (I haven't been in like 3 weeks, need to get back on track with that)
- looking for a new job (endless chore let me tell you)

Basically I've got feelings of ineptitude and worthlessness. I've been trying to do things for myself (example: I'm going out of town this weekend to TO just for the hell of it and a car show) but I'm finding that this isn't enough. I can't have what I want right now so I find myself constantly dwelling on that particular desire and knowing that I'm not gonna get it makes me depressed.

Yeah this is the PL but some of you have helped me out in the past (soy, to name one). I'd appreciate any real serious answers or assistance. I'm not depressed mind you, I am happy about life and such, I just find myself down more than up these days.

Help a brutha out ya'll. :chill:
 

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Ah much love folks much love.

I am trying to get more social... it does help, definitely takes your mind off the shite you have to think about. My friends have been very good about helping me out through this, so at least I can be greatful for that.

soy, I've done some indoor rock climbing and it was a blast. You definitely prove to yourself what you can/can't do. Good times for sure, I'm seriously going to get started on that. I definitely need to get back to the gym, yeah it's painful but it's rewarding at the same time. I wish I could take some before/after photos of myself. I've lost at least 20lbs and gained another 10 (in muscle) which has really helped my self confidence (what little there is, to be honest).

I definitely need new things to focus on, so I can get on with my life. The prospects of a dope ass job and dope ass apartment in NYC make me all giddy, but it's just been so hard getting someone to talk to me about a job for which I qualify 100-fucking-percent. Drives me nuts. I take an hour to write a super sweet cover letter and custom tailor my resume to these pricks and they can't at least shoot me an email? Uhg.

Thanks again ya'll, keep em coming. :wink:
 

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persistancy is the key..


send em 5 resumes a peice.. KEEP HITTING THEM UP..

the more they see you the more chance u have..
I was thinking about doing the phone-call follow-up. You really think pounding them with resumes will work? I guess I got nothin to lose.
 

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webguyIS said:
Lexus_Rex said:
persistancy is the key..


send em 5 resumes a peice.. KEEP HITTING THEM UP..

the more they see you the more chance u have..
I was thinking about doing the phone-call follow-up. You really think pounding them with resumes will work? I guess I got nothin to lose.
exactly. Dude i work in sales. Let me tell you hitting them up multiple times only increases your odds. And if they say NO atleast you got an answer and now you know you didnt have them before and now you dont have them so whats the difference. they may seem annoyed at first but eventually will admire your persistancy..
 

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Well I don't know how long you have been feeling this way, but these feelings tend to amplify during the holidays. It's common but it does suck, I'm going through something similar also.

I would have to agree that going to the gym will help you feel a little better, but building up the motivation to go is another story. You need to tell yourself that no matter how bad you feel, there are other people out there who may not have it as good as you do (I have found that it helps a lot). I know your a humble person, no doubt, but sometimes we need to be reminded of the obvious.

I know that being in a crappy job doesn't help much either, because it's in your face for most of the day. I guess you have to try and find a way to make your job situation better, until you find something new. Don't let things get to you, and leave the burdens of work at work and don't take it home with you. I'm sure you have already carried out these tasks, but I just thought I would mention them anyway.

Maybe finding things that you and your girl can do together might help a bit too. Confiding in someone that is close to your heart is a feeling like no other.

I hope I was able to help a little and I hope things get better for you. In the words of 2Pac "You got to keep your head up."

Word :chill:
 

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Go see a shrink....seriously. The PL is good for advice, but if your really having trouble, you should see a professional.
 

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do sopmething randomand out of character.go to a al green concert, or listen to ala green cd, rev. green always helps me thru tough time.......
 

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I've seen the reverend (central park, 2001) and it was a fantastic show. He's still mackin' it too!
 

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i myself am going through something very similar right now in fact. I just broke up with my girlfriend of two and a half years. we were living together and things were justnot working out. We seemed to fight all of the time over petty stuf fthat had just built up. Neither one of use were happy.
I have moved out and am trying to get things turned around. I am spending more time in the gym to get back to the way that I was and shooting for even better. I used to BMX and Mountian bike a lot in college so I am saving my money to purchase a bike and get back on the trails. I have rock climbed before and enjoyed it. I have thought of trying to pick up on a kickboxing class or two.
so I can simpathize with you on the emptyness thing. I think that it is more internal. But if you can spend some time with yourself and get your thoughts together you can ultimately before a better person.

But alcohol and titty bars can always releave stress :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
 

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Dont go to a shrink, they will just try and put you on meds.
If you think your troubles are bad now, try having the same ones and a liver that you've killed from perscription drugs. If you can, take a few weeks off work and try to figure out who you are... hang with the boys a little, but more importantly, write a list of what you like to do, what you WANT to do in life,, and some general goals. You can never make anything out of life if you have no idea what direction you want to go in.
 
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