Assuming you did, maybe someone over torqued them at some point? Or your wrench could be off. I used a digital gauge alongside my click type wrench just to make sure. (And also because my smaller torque wrench is 20ft-lbs low because the handle got misaligned somehow.)
There are no grade 8 bolts anywhere on the car. That would mean imperial threads. Either grade 10.9 or 12.9 will work. m10x1.25 would be my guess from brief searching. you have the bolt. Just measure it. It’s either 10mm or 12mm.
The thread pitch is almost certainly fine (1.25 either way I think) so you might not find it in Home Depot. Ace hardware has AMAZING metric hardware section if you have one of those. Fastenal, despite its name, does not. McMaster Carrt has amazing hardware section as well but they’re “online” only. (Though I live close enough to do warehouse pickup)