So to follow up with what I started, I took my passenger side apart. Looks like my problem was bad quality control on KYB's part and a defective mount. The top mount bushing was practically just a circle and so the whole shock was bouncing around inside the mount. My OEM insulator arrows were lined up with the KYB mount arrows. Also, from looking at the stock insulator, it doesn't seem like there is a way the arrows can go any other way because the spring sits inside the insulator exactly where it is all notched... so the arrows will only be in one position. My orientation is just like EK9B18 originally stated, forward and out. I still had my old 180k mile mounts, the bushing was in great condition just some surface rust on the metal, so I just wire wheeled it all and painted it. After assembly the problem is gone, no noise at all. I've put about 300 miles on so far.
Pictures show KYB on left and OEM on right, you can see the hole for the shock lean is gone but well-defined in the OEM. The plate between the mount and shock also has two notches but no other markings. Notches are in between two holes and then directly lined up with another hole. I orientated this plate so middle notch lined up with the arrows and other notch is directly across from it. Last picture shows where my arrows and orientation are (scratched the paint to make a circle) vs where the ABS mount is. This angle seems close to the picture in this thread.
Like I said I haven't had any issues so far with having my arrows forward and out. I'll update this thread if that changes I rack up miles pretty quickly.